 Are new to swinging and as a couple keen to get into the swinging scene, if so welcome to Adult Contacts 247 the home of UK & European swingers and here we address some of the concerns and considerations any new swinging couple should consider
Today more than ever more couples are joining the swingers scene and this has been helped largely by the internet making it so much more easier for couples to live out fantasies involving swapping partners or inviting others into there bedrooms or come to think of it any room LOL
Couples are NOW turning fantasy into reality and no more just wishing to try out swinging but really doing it and meeting with other people which for swinging couples already in the scene great news for us, as we love to have new members joining in with our swinging fun and trust me its a lot of FUN
Whilst joining a swingers website is great fun and you will meet up with a lot of new "friends" like anything their are both considerations and pitfalls and you should be made aware of several things that could effect your enjoyment and also considerations you should make before join us.
follow these guidelines for happy swinging:
- Don"t bully a partner into the swinging scene. -:
This is a biggy, you both have to be fully happy about entering the swinging scene and whilst in the cold light of the day you both may want to swing often if you have a reluctant partner when they are forced into swinging this is where problems will often happen if one of you is not ready to play. Dragging your partner into swinging is not the way forward and forcing a reluctant partner is not going to make them change their minds. You either both want to swing or not.
- Ask Why as a couple you want to try swinging -: it may seem like a daft statement but you have to know why you want to try swinging, is it because your sex life with your wife / partner is poor, if so go see a marriage councilor not joining a swingers website. Are you joining a swinger site because you have a good strong marriage but want to try sex with other couples, or see your partner with someone else then fine
- Boundaries, not garden but sexual -: As a new swinging couple you need to know your sexual boundaries before going to your first party or meeting with a couple and for the bulk of new swinging couples its meeting with other couples thats your first meet, so make sure you are BOTH 100% happy about this and what you are BOTH aware of the no go zones
For example assuming your meeting a couple you may only be looking towards soft play ( or soft swinging ) and this is where couples won't have full intercourse, everything else is fine just not penetrative sex this is saved between the couples themselves and you'll be surprised that a lot of couples will only consider soft meets or in some cases couples will only want same room sex with there own partners, but either way you need to set your boundaries so you know
- After your first meet with a swinging couple, talk about it -: When your home talk about how the night went, what you liked, what turned you off, what you REALLY want to do again. But more so make sure you are both happy about the way the evening went and how good or not the evening was be it good or bad make sure you both are OK about your first experience and how you want to move forward or not!
If you are happy and want to move forward, decide what changes, if any, you want to make to the rules under which you both play. Never step outside your boundaries without agreement, don"t try to modify the boundaries on the evening, always start the evening knowing exactly what is and is not allowed.
- Remember WHY !!! your swinging - : Your swinging with other couples so that you can have some fun, nothing more and nothing else is on thee cards and most / all couples that are in the swinging scene will have a strong and stable relationship and not looking towards swinging for anything else than what it is, thats having sex with someone else other than your partner NOTHING more. Declaring any feeling you have towards another swinging couple will not only complicate issues but put a strain on everyone's relationship. Remember swinging is about SEX nothing else.
Can Friends br swingers - its something that more people are looking towards and I do have a few close friends myself that I also swing with so if your looking for something other than just NSA sex then say within your personals advert that your looking towards friendships as some people will find until they have some type of bond (friendship) they won't be able to fully relax. For some this is a must other swinging couples are just happy to meet with anyone for sex
- Also - read Swingers abbreviations
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Above all swinging is great fun and a way to meet with similar couples that have a high sex drive and want to share sexual experiences with other swinging couples, so join us today and start having some fun and meeting with our members..........we do have one or two ;o) |
